I've been collecting my writings from years gone by as I find them. Each time I move - now 5 times in the last 3 years - I find more scraps, loose sheets, etc. with my thoughts from various times in my life. I've decided to copy as many of them as I can here to try and keep from losing them again, and to share with the world. Please feel free to comment as thoughts occur to you. Either send them to trekker9er@yahoo.com or use the comment links here. Thanks, and Enjoy!

Sunday, April 04, 2004

 My Significant Other Checklist


I keep forgetting things on the list, and loosing the lists I write up for various reasons, so I've decided it's time to blog it.

Required
DOESN'T Smoke
Doesn't do drugs
Doesn't drink (preferably), or only drinks a couple socially
Wants children (someday)
I will NOT do the long distance relationship again
Honesty
A job
A car
Treats me Right
Has own friends
Doesn't have to share same religious/spiritual beliefs, but has to be able to let me follow my own.


What I look for
Height: Taller than me
No pet dogs
Over 23 years old
35 or under years old
Non-hairy
Uses vulgar speech or actions less than occasionally
Similar tastes in music (oldies, soft rock, disco, 80's pop, Motown, etc.)
An educational degree
Interest in Star Trek, or at least able to put up with my Star Trek obsession
Doesn't mind spending more time at my place, but also will leave when I say it's time to go
Someone who will stay when I seriously ask, even if it means missing something important
Someone who understands, and preferably even likes, family holidays and traditions
Not constantly down on themself
Body type that is not muscular (toned is fine, six-pack is iffy, "ripped" is bad)
Not Atheist


Questions to be answered
1) If we are in the same room but doing separate things - such as one person on the computer and one watching TV, or one reading a book, or whatnot - do you consider that time together or time apart?
2a) Would you prefer to be a part of my life or the center of my life?
2b) Would you prefer I be a part of your life or the center of your life?
3) Do you live with anyone? If so, whom?
4) Would you prefer an open relationship or exclusive?
5) Can you respect and honor my decision to remain a virgin until I am married?


Not required, but would be nice
Cooks
... and likes to cook
Gives Good backrubs
Likes to cuddle
Likes to Dance
... and knows how to Dance
Likes a good debate, or conversation that keeps going off on tangents
Someone who uses capitals, punctuation, and the actual words instead of their single letter equivalents (such as are vs. r and you vs. u) when typing.
Posted by: trekker9er : 11:43 PM  

Comments

trekker9er said:
So here's stuff from my profile on eHarmony:

Following are 3 Relationship Strengths from your Personality Profile: Jennifer is optimistic and tends to make others feel good about themselves.
Jennifer tends to enjoy life and share that enjoyment with others.
Jennifer is very respectful of the needs and wants of other people.


1. The four things your friends say about you: ?Caring
Intelligent
Loyal
Genuine


2. What are you most passionate about?Another hard one! Let's see: children, helping, friends, family, sci-fi, writing, sewing, roleplaying, programming?, Nature, etc....


3. What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?Honesty


4. What are three of your BEST life-skills? Making new friends
Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis


5. Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?Wow, hard question. There's so many potentials! My brother, the teacher that encouraged my enthusiasm for learning, the shuttle Challenger's crew, my Nana, Star Trek, high school teachers, Mother Nature/Earth, my first boss, the ex-sister-of-my-heart. Yet I think I've managed to narrow the list down to two: Samantha and God.


6. What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?1. My Life
2. My Family
3. My Friends


7. Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?My attitude? I don't know!


8. What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?Um..., I think people notice everything I'd like them to. And if they don't, I likely make whatever it is a bit more obvious.


9. How do you typically spend your leisure time?Either out with friends, on the computer, watching tv, or doing whatever hobby of mine is currently my favorite (right now that's writing).


10. Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?"Farnham's Freehold". It's about a small group of people who took shelter in a home-made bomb shelter when the US got bombed during the Cold War and ended up thrown through time. VERY interesting character interaction, well writen, and a neat concept to think about.


11. Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friends know.I have a dual natured personality. They can either be called the Emotional side and the Logical side or the Personal side and the Work side. In Myers-Briggs types they test as NF and NT. My NF/Emotional side is my natural or default one. My NT/Logical side I can "turn on" as desired or needed, I also believe it's my natural defense mechanism.


12. Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?I don't play relationship games and I mean what I say because I don't like having to figure out what others really mean or want when they say or do things. I always prefer people be honest with me even if it would mean my getting hurt. In my experience I'm an unusual mix of the Old Fashioned/Girl Next Door type and the Modern/Independant Woman type. My favorite flowers are Lilies.


13. What are five things that you "can't live without?"a. Music
b. Purpose
c. People
d. Food and Water?
e. Almost forgot! The internet


Must Haves:Communicator...
I must have someone who is good at talking and listening.

Sense of Humor...
I must have someone who is sharp and can enjoy the humorous side of life.

Strong Character...
I must have a partner who is honest and strong enough to do the right thing.

Tolerant...
I must have a partner who is able to hear and appreciate divergent viewpoints.

Intellect...
I must have a partner who is bright and can share my understanding of the world as well as enjoy discussing important issues.

Loyal...
I must have someone I can count on to always support me.

Autonomy...
I must have a partner who will give me space to be my own person.

Family Life...
I must have a partner who is committed to marriage, home, and family.

Family...
I must have someone who shares my desire to have or adopt children.

Spiritual Acceptance...
My partner must accept and respect my spiritual beliefs, whether they share them or not.


Can't Stands:Dependence...
I can't stand someone who bases their happiness on me.

Lying...
I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me.

Intolerance...
While I understand that religious conviction is a positive trait, I can't stand someone who is self-righteous and feels that their particular faith is the only one that matters.

Mean Spirited...
I can't stand someone who has a devious nature and is mean to others.

Drugs...
I can't stand someone who uses illegal recreational drugs.

Racist...
I can't stand someone who believes that any particular ethnic group to which they belong is superior to the rest of humanity.

Hypocrites...
I can't stand someone who holds a double standard for their actions and those of other people.

Undependable...
I can't stand someone who fails to come through and is unreliable.

Foul Mouthed...
I can't stand someone who swears or uses inappropriate language or humor.

Infidelity...
I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.
Posted by trekker9er : 8:57 PM
 

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